St George's CE Primary School

Raising independent children

 

Independence is not something that your children can gain on their own; they have neither the perspective, experience, nor skills to develop independence separately from you. Rather, it is a gift you give your children that they will cherish and benefit from their entire lives. You can provide your child with several essential ingredients for gaining independence:

 

1. Give your children love and respect.          

2. Show confidence in your children's capabilities.

3. Teach them that they have control over their lives.

4. Provide guidance and then give them the freedom to make their own decisions.

 

 

Remember the old adage “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day.  Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime?”

Children need to feel wanted and helpful, and they need us to learn responsibility. Teaching our children from a young age how to take care of themselves, will enable them to have that ability later on in life, when they will really need these essential skills.

 

Ages 2-3

 

Picking up toys after play

 

Putting their dirty washing into the laundry basket

 

Washing their hands

 

Get dressed with parental supervision

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Age 4-5

 

Get dressed with minimal parental help

 

Make their bed with minimal parental help

 

Using the toilet independently

 

Clean teeth

 

Taking cutlery and plate to the sink after food

 

Help parent sort colours for the laundry

 

Matching socks after they have been washed

Age 6-7

 

Make bed

 

Get dressed

 

Wash themselves

 

Help wash up after dinner or put away dishes from the dishwasher

 

Choose the day's outfit and get dressed

 

Water plants

 

School bags ready for school

 

Prepare food with parental help

Ages 8 to 11

 

Keep bedroom clean and tidy

 

Be responsible for homework

 

Be responsible for belongings such as library books and PE kits

 

Wake up using an alarm clock

 

Help parents prepare meals

 

Learn to use the washer and dryer

 

Take the rubbish out for bin collection day

 

 

From the age of 4 upwards you can use a chore chart so that the child can see what needs to be done on a daily basis; this creates another skill of becoming independent

 

Remember every family is completely unique and these chores are guidelines created by research and parenting groups.  You and your family can create your own chores to go along side some of these, to suit your family home and running of your life