St George's CE Primary School

  1. Curriculum
  2. PSHE
  3. Emotional well-being
  4. Fostering Independence

Raising independent children


Independence is not something that your children can gain on their own; they have neither the perspective, experience, nor skills to develop independence separately from you. Rather, it is a gift you give your children that they will cherish and benefit from their entire lives. You can provide your child with several essential ingredients for gaining independence:


1. Give your children love and respect.          

2. Show confidence in your children's capabilities.

3. Teach them that they have control over their lives.

4. Provide guidance and then give them the freedom to make their own decisions.



Remember the old adage “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day.  Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime?”

Children need to feel wanted and helpful, and they need us to learn responsibility. Teaching our children from a young age how to take care of themselves, will enable them to have that ability later on in life, when they will really need these essential skills.


Ages 2-3


Picking up toys after play


Putting their dirty washing into the laundry basket


Washing their hands


Get dressed with parental supervision









Age 4-5


Get dressed with minimal parental help


Make their bed with minimal parental help


Using the toilet independently


Clean teeth


Taking cutlery and plate to the sink after food


Help parent sort colours for the laundry


Matching socks after they have been washed

Age 6-7


Make bed


Get dressed


Wash themselves


Help wash up after dinner or put away dishes from the dishwasher


Choose the day's outfit and get dressed


Water plants


School bags ready for school


Prepare food with parental help

Ages 8 to 11


Keep bedroom clean and tidy


Be responsible for homework


Be responsible for belongings such as library books and PE kits


Wake up using an alarm clock


Help parents prepare meals


Learn to use the washer and dryer


Take the rubbish out for bin collection day



From the age of 4 upwards you can use a chore chart so that the child can see what needs to be done on a daily basis; this creates another skill of becoming independent


Remember every family is completely unique and these chores are guidelines created by research and parenting groups.  You and your family can create your own chores to go along side some of these, to suit your family home and running of your life